The Millennial Relationship Guide
As a millennial watching our parents relationships, we might not be well equipped to have a healthy lasting one. With divorce rates climbing, and parents fighting on a daily basis, we grew up watching all the mistakes they made. Because of this our generation is trying to break the cycle by marrying later and avoiding having kids too young. Real love has become our goal, but learning to establish that connection isn’t always simple.
Having someone to walk through the journey of life is satisfying. As human beings we crave company and thrive better in groups. In fact, isolation can drive us mad. We crave touch and intimacy from our loved ones. However, relationships are hard and don’t always last. For them to work they take a lot of communication and compromise from both parties. That being said, they are totally worth it. Here are five things that are must haves in a relationship today.
A relationship can’t be started between two people until they both feel a connection. This doesn’t always happen at first sight, as some modern day love stories will have us believe. They take work and patience. This means you might need to go on a few dates to get to know them, or try becoming friends first. Most people will know if there is a connection pretty early on after having talked for a bit.
Love and Understanding
Once you have an established relationship, learning how to understand what they need and how they love is important. Coming from different backgrounds, we all have different traumas we have suffered and have learned how to love differently. Understand that your partner isn’t going to always act or say things in a way that you like.
This isn’t always that simple. As human beings we get frustrated and lash out on occasion. Living with a partner can make it worse. Maybe you are sick of having to do all the chores, or they don’t put the cereal back in the right cabinet. Fights are inevitable, but remember; you and your partner are a team and shouldn’t be fighting against each other. Learn how to open a line of communication about why you are frustrated and how you two can fix it.
An important step in building the relationship is learning to trust. You shouldn’t be going through their phone, or getting upset when they want to spend time with their friends. While it’s important to let them know your feelings, be aware if those feelings are valid. Unless you have absolute proof that they are cheating, learn that jealousy is more of an issue you need to work on rather than expecting them to only give you attention. If you are feeling neglected, let them know. No one person loves in the say way. We need to let our partners know what we need from them to feel secure in the relationship.
Compromise, Compromise, Compromise
You are never going to see eye-to-eye on every little aspect of the relationship. This means that both parties need to be willing to compromise to find a middle ground. To do this, communication is vital. Come up with a set of rules, for example, if you can’t decide on a movies, then one person picks the movie one day and the next time the other person gets to choose. Or find a solution that will suit both your desires and needs. If you want to see a movie that your partner will absolutely hate, then go see it with your friends. You may not always get your way, but there is a give and take that comes with being in a relationship.
Relationships are about finding someone who can see deeper into you than you see in yourself. They don’t just see what you are now; they see you for all your potential. To have a healthy relationship as a millennial, we must all learn how to compromise and take time to establish a healthy relationship. Seeing your partner’s perspective, as well as your own will help you see that it’s not about being right or wrong, it’s about coming together to solve issues. At the end of the day you decide if the relationship is something you can see lasting for the proverbial forever.