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The Millennial Guide To Relationships

The Millennial Relationship Guide

As a millennial watching our parents relationships, we might not be well equipped to have a healthy lasting one. With divorce rates climbing, and parents fighting on a daily basis, we grew up watching all the mistakes they made. Because of this our generation is trying to break the cycle by marrying later and avoiding having kids too young. Real love has become our goal, but learning to establish that connection isn’t always simple.

Having someone to walk through the journey of life is satisfying. As human beings we crave company and thrive better in groups. In fact, isolation can drive us mad. We crave touch and intimacy from our loved ones. However, relationships are hard and don’t always last. For them to work they take a lot of communication and compromise from both parties. That being said, they are totally worth it.   Here are five things that are must haves in a relationship today.

Chemistry

A relationship can’t be started between two people until they both feel a connection. This doesn’t always happen at first sight, as some modern day love stories will have us believe. They take work and patience. This means you might need to go on a few dates to get to know them, or try becoming friends first. Most people will know if there is a connection pretty early on after having talked for a bit.

Love and Understanding

Once you have an established relationship, learning how to understand what they need and how they love is important. Coming from different backgrounds, we all have different traumas we have suffered and have learned how to love differently. Understand that your partner isn’t going to always act or say things in a way that you like.

Patience

This isn’t always that simple. As human beings we get frustrated and lash out on occasion. Living with a partner can make it worse. Maybe you are sick of having to do all the chores, or they don’t put the cereal back in the right cabinet. Fights are inevitable, but remember; you and your partner are a team and shouldn’t be fighting against each other. Learn how to open a line of communication about why you are frustrated and how you two can fix it.

Trust

An important step in building the relationship is learning to trust. You shouldn’t be going through their phone, or getting upset when they want to spend time with their friends. While it’s important to let them know your feelings, be aware if those feelings are valid. Unless you have absolute proof that they are cheating, learn that jealousy is more of an issue you need to work on rather than expecting them to only give you attention.  If you are feeling neglected, let them know. No one person loves in the say way. We need to let our partners know what we need from them to feel secure in the relationship.

Compromise, Compromise, Compromise

You are never going to see eye-to-eye on every little aspect of the relationship. This means that both parties need to be willing to compromise to find a middle ground. To do this, communication is vital. Come up with a set of rules, for example, if you can’t decide on a movies, then one person picks the movie one day and the next time the other person gets to choose. Or find a solution that will suit both your desires and needs. If you want to see a movie that your partner will absolutely hate, then go see it with your friends. You may not always get your way, but there is a give and take that comes with being in a relationship.

Relationships are about finding someone who can see deeper into you than you see in yourself. They don’t just see what you are now; they see you for all your potential. To have a healthy relationship as a millennial, we must all learn how to compromise and take time to establish a healthy relationship. Seeing your partner’s perspective, as well as your own will help you see that it’s not about being right or wrong, it’s about coming together to solve issues. At the end of the day you decide if the relationship is something you can see lasting for the proverbial forever.

Five Reasons Why Virtual Offices are Becoming More Popular

Advances in technology have continued to make our lives easier. You can do almost anything using a computer in today’s world. All you need is an internet connection.  You can even trade in your physical office for a virtual office. Here are some benefits of ditching that physical office for a virtual one.

Setting your own hours

A recent sleep study finds that we wake up way earlier than our natural circadian rhythms would like. Working in a traditional physical office, you will often find yourself having to make it to work by 8 am, sometimes earlier. With this, you are expected to get your workload done within this time restrain, before the office closes for the night. With a virtual office you get to set your own hours. Not having to worry about when the office is closing at the end of the night. This allows you to do work on your timeline, and can help increase productivity levels; all you have to do is meet your deadlines.

Ditching the weekly commute

Many people will waste hours every week just by commuting to and from a physical office. Hours spend in a car doing nothing productive can kill your productivity and also cause pain in your lower back. This gives you less free time to do the things you like. All work and no play can be a very stressful thing and stress can be very bad for your health. With a virtual office you can get your work done after a full night of sleep.

Ability to communicate from miles away

With a virtual office, your client base isn’t limited to the people within driving range. You have access to people that live miles away, connect by an internet connection. Not only this, but you have access to employees from all over the world, with all sorts of skills.

Less money spend on technology

With your employee’s connecting with you over the internet, you don’t have to spend money on their technology. This also gives them a choice as to what devices they are using to work on. Employees will be responsible for keeping their devices up to date and ensure that they are in working order.

Flexibility

The biggest ups side to having a virtual office is the flexibility it provides the employees. You gain the flexibility of time, space, and access to all the information at the touch of a button. You no longer need to wait for the office to be open. Employees can work from anywhere that has internet connect. This gives employee’s the opportunity to schedule their own down time and spend it how they like. You also have the option of a physical office with your virtual office. One that is open at all hours, with conference rooms you can use to schedule in person meetings.

 

While virtual offices shouldn’t replace in person interactions completely, it is a great way to enhance your business. With all the advancements of the twenty-first century, it would be foolish to not use it to your benefit.

Casey’s Journal Part 8

December 4, 2014

It’s been a few weeks now. Things are starting to improve, I think. I don’t spend every night crying on your empty pillow. Every once in a while I have a day free of tears.

Most of our friends have learned about our breakup. For this I am thankful, they don’t bring you up when I ‘m around. They all look at me as if I’m fragile, and at the moment your name leaves their mouth, I might shatter. They aren’t wrong.

I know this is what we needed. It wasn’t working anymore, but that doesn’t make it hurt any less. We had built a life together; I haven’t pictured a future without you, in three years. We had said we were going to get married, have a couple of kids. What happened to us?

I know what happened to us. After all, I lived it.

I’ve been trying to pinpoint the exact moment it started to fall apart. Was it the night we had our first big fight? Your mom wanted you to spend Christmas with the family. You hadn’t seen them in years. I know I was being selfish, but I wanted to spend the holidays with the person I was in love with, and we both knew I wasn’t welcomed there.

We had been together for a little over two years then, and we had spent those last two Christmas’s with my family. They loved you as much as they loved me, and I wished your family could have done the same with me.

Or was it when I picked a fight with you a month later. I accused you of flirting with the waitress, at the restaurant we had our first date in. I see now you were acting the way you always acted. I had never gotten this jealous before, but then again you stopped making me feel like I was the only one you had eyes for.

It goes on from there. I’ve been analyzing every fight after that. They started to get more frequent and more vicious. Every day turned into us pushing each other away more, and more.

We were both equally to blame, our pride starting becoming more important to us than keeping our love alive. We both wanted to win, to be right. I’m starting to think we were both wrong.

I doesn’t really matter how it fell apart at this point, all that matters is that it’s over. You’re not here, and I’m alone. Days are passing without me being aware of the time, and I’m not sure where to go from here.

To be continued…

Casey’s Journal Part 7

November 30, 2014

The end, it sounds so final. As if part of my life is over forever, I suppose it is. How do you move on from an ending? Do you crawl your way through life, hoping that one day things will get better?

We may have ended, but my life didn’t. I needed to remind myself that there was hope at the end of this tunnel vision I had for you. My life had been focused around our relationship, and I started to lose my sense of self inside. In this thought, I am trying to convince myself that I am better off without you. I’m concerned that, once this numbness wears off, I’m going to plummet into the pain of missing you.

Right now, I feel pretty much nothing. It’s as if I’m in shock. Is it actually over? How could we let us fall apart? We made a promise that was supposed to last forever.

This is just the calm before the storm. A storm which, I suspect, will last a long time. I’m sorry for whoever gets caught in my hurricane of missing you.

To be continued…

Casey’s Journal Part 6

November 26, 2014

Today, I am angry at you. I’m so mad at how we ended things. Maybe if you didn’t say the words that day, we could have worked it out. Why did you have to give up hope?! Staying together would have taken a lot of effort, but we had plans. You shatter those plans in one instant and now I’m left here grieving a lover that isn’t dead, just gone.

I thought you were braver than me because you had the courage to end it, but I’m not really sure that was brave anymore. We had plans, a life together. You ruined that and convinced me it was for the best. Is this really the best? I’m left here alone crying in my new apartment still haunted by our memories. Living without you seems impossible. I don’t think I’ll ever be happy again. I built my happiness in you, when you walked away you took it with you and I hate you for that.

Casey’s Journal Part 5

November 21, 2014

Today is the first Friday night without you. We had plans to go to a bar with our friends, or are they your friends? I don’t even remember anymore. What happens to friends during a breakup? Do we split them up? I’m at a complete loss of what to do.

I’ve been trying to figure out if I should go along with the plans. I have a fear that we both will show up there, and I won’t be able to keep myself from falling apart in front of you. These wounds are too fresh for me to be okay around you. Hell, I’m not even sure I would be able to hold it together in front of our friends.

Do they know we broke up? I haven’t really told anyone yet. The last thing I need is the pity that is sure to come along with that. Everyone knows how weak I am. You were always the strong one, keeping me together. Now, I’m liable to fall apart at a moment’s notice.

I should probably just stay home. No one wants to be around a person who can’t keep it together, especially, when they are trying to just have fun.

I’ll just send Macy a text and tell her I can’t make it.

To be continued…

Love Isn’t…

Love isn’t just smiles and laughter, its the tears and pain as well. Love is forgiveness and togetherness. It’s committing to a better tomorrow, even in the face of chaos. It’s staying, even in the most trying of times. Love isn’t always simple, but it is always willing to try.

Five Reason’s Your Social Media Isn’t Generating Leads

Business owners today know that social media is a big part of growing your business. Having an online presence can help bring in a lot of leads, but it isn’t always a simple thing to accomplish. You might find that yourself engaging in all levels of social media, without much success. While it does take time to build and online presence, sometimes you just aren’t doing it right. Here are some reasons your social media isn’t generating leads.

You don’t post interesting content

To keep people interested, you have to provide them with content that will keep them coming back. You don’t want to just stick to self-promotion. Otherwise, people aren’t going to see a need to continue follow your social media. Providing fresh content on a weekly basis can really help drive traffic to your sites.

Your social media isn’t promoted on your site

Having social media isn’t always enough; you need to promote these sites. Provide links to them on your website; don’t expect your customer base to go out of their way to search for these themselves.

You don’t understand how to use them right

Every social media site has its own way of attracting followers. You need to understand the way you use Twitter, isn’t going to be the same way you would use Facebook. Learning how to make each type of social media work for you, you need to know why your followers use that site first.

You’ve spread yourself too thin

More isn’t always better. Being on multiple social media sites isn’t away going to attract more customers and might make it difficult for you to keep up with all of them. Narrow down the sites that are more beneficial to your type of business and focus on those. Don’t spread yourself too thin, where you aren’t providing enough engaging content on each site. Instead make sure to add fresh content on the sites you do use, as often as you can.

Lack of conversation

Having social media isn’t just for self-promotion, have some fun with it. Keep up a two way conversation with your followers to keep them interesting and coming back. Followers like to be heard, and replying to a Facebook post or a tweet can accomplish this. Taking a few minutes every day to respond to a few comments can really help you build long term relationships with your customers.

Social media isn’t just for family and friends anymore. Companies are using these platforms to connect with their current customers and bring in more. Building relationships with your customers can help keep them coming back. Fresh content that provides useful information is important to keep them coming back.

Fresh content can help increase the flow of organic traffic to your site. Boosting the number of visitors can be as easy as posting articles with SEO content on a weekly basis.  Looking to grow your business with fresh, SEO web articles? Contact me today for more information.

New Year’s Resolution: Three Tips For Organizing Your Garage

If you are like many other garage owners, your space is so cluttered there is no way you could think about parking your car in there. The thought of cleaning a space, such as this, can be a daunting one. This is why, when faced with a task like this, it is best to go at it with a plan. Here are some tips for organizing your garage.

Create a plan

The first thing you want to do is actually get into it. As Newton’s laws of physics state, an object in motion tends to stay in motion. Once you start the motivation to finish will help out. Start by coming up with a plan of action. Break it down into little task, maybe start with a corner and work your way outward. By breaking it into little task, organizing your garage seems more manageable.

Make piles

Start sorting your items into different piles. One for things you will keep, another for things that can be sold or donated, and a third for stuff you can just toss out. This will let you know what needs to go back into the garage and what doesn’t need to be there anymore.

Look into self-storage

Once the piles are sorted, and you find that you still don’t have enough space to park your car in its home, you might want to start looking into self-storage. Self-storage can help you keep things important to you, without the cluttering up your home or garage.

Casey’s Journal Part 4

November 19, 2014

The next few days were a constant reminder of the split. The first day back to work, a co-worker asked about you. I held my tears in as I told him we had decided to take a break. He followed with a sincere apologize; all I wanted was for him to stop talking.

I didn’t need or want anyone’s apologizes, I wanted to forget you. I don’t mean I wanted to evacuate all the memories we had together, no I wanted to keep those. What I needed was to stop visualizing you in my future.

The little things, liking picking a restaurant or a movie to watch, had always been a balancing act of both our likes and dislikes. Three years had created habits, I wasn’t sure I could break. My past had been filled with actions beside you; it wasn’t easy to erase you from my planning. But you aren’t here, and I guess I should now do the things you always hated.

Every time I wanted to go out to eat, I always thought about where you liked to go. How we would never get Chinese food, because you didn’t like it. I loved Chinese food and I haven’t had it in three years because of you.

Or choosing a movie, I thought how you didn’t like comedies, so they were out of the question. I didn’t see that big summer hit last year, because you thought it look dumb and didn’t want to waste money sitting through something you didn’t enjoy.

That’s when I decided what my next Friday night would be. I order my favorite dish from the Chinese place down the street. I went to Redbox after work, and got that summer hit I missed out on. I sat there, laughing, and eating the food I missed out on for three years. By the end of the movie, I started crying. I’m not sure why. Maybe it was because I missed you, but I was finding myself in your absence.

I got food poisoning from the food I ordered.  At first, I thought about how it could have been avoided if we had figured out a way to works things out. But I pushed these thoughts as far out of my mind as I could. These things happen in life, kind of how break ups happen. I don’t think missing you is going to get much easier anytime soon.

To be continued..