The Last Year In My 20’s

This past Friday was my 29th birthday. As I enter the last year of my 20’s it makes me think of all the things I have learned over these last few years. I have grown into a completely different person, ready for the next chapter in my life. Here are some of my thoughts about life.

Drinking is a Young Persons Game

When we are young, college age, we are introduced to the world of drinking. It is all around us and the best way to relieve stress after a long week of classes. Everyone around is asking where the best parties are and who is going where. At that age, we can party all night and be fine the next day.

As I have aged, I realized that even a drink or two can greatly impact my performance the next day. This is why I have given up drinking for the most part. When I wake up in the morning I want to be able to face my goals head on, with a clear mind and body. I can’t afford to be groggy or hungover. It’s just not worth it anymore. I’d rather crush my goals on the weekend then spend it in bed nursing a hangover.

Hobbies are Vital

Once we are done with school and off on our respective careers, most of us stop learning. We spend our free time surfing the web, or staying at our T.V. until bed time. This offers us no growth causing us to become stagnant.

Everyone should invest in hobbies. You should have a few different hobby’s; one that makes you smarter, one that makes you fitter, one that challenges you to go further in your career, one that helps your creativity, and one that you enjoy. While you don’t have to do each of these hobbies every day, you should try to fit them in your schedule as often as possible.

Hobbies I like to include in my daily activities include; playing the guitar, video games, writing, reading, cooking, taking online classes, jogging, power lifting, yoga, and meditation. I will often cycle through these hobbies each year to keep things fresh and exciting. I also like to try out a new hobby to help with my creativity. This year I’ve added drawing and painting.

Be Aware of what You are Eating

Food is meant to keep us alive and fueled. Our nation creates a mass amount of food that isn’t good for us to consume. When we are younger it seems like we can eat anything and not suffer any consequences. However, as we age our bodies start to take the hits. While you don’t have to eat healthy every day, try to be aware of what you are putting into your body. Try foods that are going to aid in your health, rather than the ones that can cause damage.

I believer everyone should know how to cook. If you feel like you don’t have time, try meal prepping on the weekends. Try bringing health foods to work, and getting meals that are easy to make and eat when you get home for dinner. It’s a great start to a healthier lifestyle.

My girlfriend and I try to cook dinner together most nights. We have a protein, a vegetable, and a carb for most meals. I recently decide to focus more on the protein and veggie. We make enough for us both to pack a lunch the next day. Some days we will make a large meal that will last for 3-4 days to make the week a little easier for us. We try to cut down on sugar and only add them once in a while.

Time Management is a Must

Getting older also seems to mean getting busier, which is why time management is a must. If you need to, write out everything you wish to accomplish in the week, month, or year. Create a timeline of how you will get that done. Make little goals that you can achieve along the way that will help you reach the main goal. Try your best to stick to the timeline, but don’t get disappointed if you need more time.

I like to use apps on my phone to help with this. To help me build a more productive life, I have a habit building app. I make a list of things I wish to accomplish and how often in the week I want to do them. I then check them off every day after I am complete. This way I hold myself accountable and make sure I am being productive. In the past I have also written out daily schedule and check things off as I went along. Working for myself means I always need to remind myself to not get distracted from my productivity.

Spend Time with Those you Love  

Life isn’t always about work and goals. Sometimes, you need to set all of that aside and enjoy time with your loved ones. Put down the phone, computer, work, and be face to face with them. Let them know how much you appreciate them and build your relationship.

At the end of the day, you are in complete control of the path you are going to take. If you want to create a better version of yourself, it takes little bits of action each and every day. In life you need to find a balance of work and play. It isn’t always easy and many times you will falter, but the key is to keep trying.

Casey’s Journal Part 7

November 30, 2014

The end, it sounds so final. As if part of my life is over forever, I suppose it is. How do you move on from an ending? Do you crawl your way through life, hoping that one day things will get better?

We may have ended, but my life didn’t. I needed to remind myself that there was hope at the end of this tunnel vision I had for you. My life had been focused around our relationship, and I started to lose my sense of self inside. In this thought, I am trying to convince myself that I am better off without you. I’m concerned that, once this numbness wears off, I’m going to plummet into the pain of missing you.

Right now, I feel pretty much nothing. It’s as if I’m in shock. Is it actually over? How could we let us fall apart? We made a promise that was supposed to last forever.

This is just the calm before the storm. A storm which, I suspect, will last a long time. I’m sorry for whoever gets caught in my hurricane of missing you.

To be continued…

The Me Before You

I have a hard time remembering the me before there was an us. Becoming so intertwined with each other, it’s as if we no longer exist as individuals. If there was a different version of my that once walked this Earth, she is a distant memory scattered through the memories of everyone who had the misfortune of meeting her. She was rougher than the me now, broken in places she wasn’t sure how to fix. The jagged edges caused problems in her relationships. But you were able to withstand them. You worked out the sharp corners. Maybe the pieces couldn’t all be fixed, but you found a way around them. And now here we are, the shadow of what we once were just a distant memory.

28 Things I have Learned In 28 Years of life

We aren’t born with the answers to how we are going to live our lives. Time is the only thing that can reveal these answers. As we grow older we learn valuable lessons, which help us come to terms with the versions of ourselves that we inevitable develop into. A version that is, hopefully, wiser and better than the day before. Today, June 7th, is my 28th birthday and to commemorate that here is a list of 28 lessons I have learned throughout the years.

  1. Life is not always forward momentum. Sometimes, you find yourself stumbling backwards and this is needed to help center yourself so you can start moving forwards again.
  2. Grudges over love are never worth holding on to. If they aren’t treating you the way you expect to be, someone else will come around that can. Never settle for something that makes you feel unwanted.
  3. Be kind to people, even if they aren’t to you. You never know what battles they are fighting.
  4. Let go anger, it will only cause you harm.
  5. In fact let go of all negative energy that is holding you back from happiness.
  6. Surround yourself with people who build you up and support you. You have enough doubts in your own head; you don’t need them from outside sources.
  7. Never stop striving to make yourself better. We are not fixed beings; we are capable of growing into something different each and every day. Take advantage of this and learn a new way to live.
  8. Your biggest goal should be living a life that leads to happiness.
  9. Learn how to accept that things change because this is the only certainty in life. The more you hold on to trying to keep things static, the more you will suffer.
  10. Everyone has problems they are working through, you aren’t special and it shouldn’t be a competition.
  11. The simple act of living means you will suffer in one way or another; learn to accept to smile even in the most trying of times.
  12. Love is not supposed to hurt. It may not be perfect, but it shouldn’t be causing you to suffer on a regular basis.
  13. Learn to celebrate the small things. Life is happening around you and it isn’t going to slow down.
  14. Be active, go outside, and enjoy nature. Our world if a beautiful place and should be thoroughly experienced.
  15. You can keep learning even if you are no longer in school. Knowledge is powerful, never stop searching for answers. It will help you better understand this world.
  16. Stop saying you will do something tomorrow. Today is the best day to start working towards you goals. A better moment will never come.
  17. Failure is inevitable, but it makes you better. Learn to accept failure as a part of life, but don’t allow it to hold you back from trying again.
  18. The best person to rely on is yourself. Learn how to be self-sufficient.
  19. Relationships require a lot of work, but going to sleep with the same person in your bed every night can make life a little less lonely.
  20. Don’t get other people involved in problems with your significant other.
  21. Communication is a vital skill to have.
  22. Hustle hard, but be humble about it.
  23. Make sure you aren’t perpetuating your own misery because you have grown a taste for monotony.
  24. Don’t waste time stressing over small things you have no control over. If something doesn’t go right, learn to accept it and move forward. You don’t have control over the flow of the universe.
  25. Learning to forgive others for their mistakes is for you, not them. It helps give you peace of mind.
  26. Life can be expensive, but money will not bring you happiness.
  27. Your health is not guaranteed. Injuries and illnesses can take a long time to recover from. Take advantage of the days you are healthy and experience what the world has to offer.
  28. Most importantly, life should never be taken too seriously. Laugh at yourself, laugh with your friends, and smile more. Life is short, enjoy it while you can.

Check out my new poetry chapbook, All Or Nothing, now available in the Amazon store.