Let Me Define Masochism To You

If I wanted a boring life, I suppose I wouldn’t be attracted to women who threw hand grenades into it. I spend most of my time running after them, trying to stuff the pins back in. Every so often one would go off before I could stop it. I would watch as the explosion caused broken fragments of collateral damage to slowly fall to the ground. In those moments I swear you could catch a smirk on my face. Now, please watch as history repeats itself.

 

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The Effect Positive Thinking has on Your Health

Positive thinking isn’t always the easy things in the world. It will often seem impossible to control the direction the voice in our head will take. When it comes to being healthy, many of us forget to work on keeping our thoughts and mind healthy. We go to the gym and eat a healthy diet, but we never think to clean up the things we hear in our own head. But keeping your mind on track with positive thoughts can actually help you live longer and improve your health. Here are just a few reasons why you should try keeping a positive outlook to improve your lifestyle.

Reduces stress

Life is always going to have its challenges that will push you to your limits. This can cause stress. When the body is stressed the brain signals the releases of a hormone called cortisol. A number of different health issues have been linked to excess amounts of cortisol. By reducing your stress, you can reduce the levels of cortisol that is released into your system. While negative thoughts can put your body into stress, positive thoughts can help prevent this. Controlling the path your thoughts go is a great start in reducing stress.

Fights depression

Most psychologists will agree, depression often comes along with pessimistic thinking. While you can’t always fight depression with positive thinking, it can be a big help. It all starts with you learning to push away the negative thoughts and allow positivity to replace them. Your thought patterns can be altered to allow a more positive outlook. This isn’t always an easy task, but it can have a huge impact on your life. It takes time and effort to master.

Increased immune system

While there is still more studies that need to be done on this, it has been shown that how you think can have an impact on how your immune system will function. It seems that a positive outlook can even help you fight off those nasty colds. People displaying an optimistic outlook are more likely to show an increase in their immune system, while people with a pessimistic outlook had lowered immunity.

Live longer

Not only does positive thinking help reduce stress and increase you immune system, but it helps you live longer overall. People with an optimistic outlook have been shown to have lower cholesterol and lower risk of heart attack, even if they have a family history of it. Happier people tend to live healthier lifestyles and make better life decisions. This helps aid in keeping them healthier longer.

Your body is affected by your brain, and what you think can have a huge impact on it. Keeping a positive outlook not only helps you live a happier life, it has been proven to help you lead a longer, healthier life. While it isn’t always the easiest thing to do, learning how to control the things you think can be very beneficial in all aspects of your life. It is an essential to your health as working out and keeping a healthy diet. Overall health doesn’t just stop with your body; it also resides in the way you are thinking.

Doubt, The Dream Killer

Doubt is an ugly human habit. We doubt ourselves, we doubt others, and we doubt anything we can. This is our own way of trying to protect ourselves from pain and failure. We build these walls around ourselves from the doubts we have, piling them as high as we can as a safety net. However, listening to this doubt might cause more harm than good, in the end.

Most of us have dreams to be something better than average, to rise above, creating the best possible life for our families. Yet many of us let the doubt in the back of our heads prevent us from taking the necessary steps to reach this level of greatness. While we may strive for more, we don’t take the steps needed to actually move towards our goals. We settle for an average life because this is safer.

Settling for average is easy, but it kills dreams. You live your entire life inside of a box where you fit comfortable. Your comfort box is what prevents you from flourishing, letting doubt tuck us in. This is when you start living the same day over and over. Not experiencing any real growth. Every dream you have ever had is just outside this box. It is within reach, you just have to be willing to step out.

What is the point of life if you just accept what is handed to you? Do you not want to live for a greater purpose? Hundreds of years from now your name will fade from this existence, if you don’t make it mean something more while you still have the chance. Leave your mark on humanity and let them remember you long after you are gone. Let them know that you never settle for average, but rather you reached for something greater and because of that you lived the life you always dreamed of.

How do you achieve this greatness? There doesn’t seem to be just one equation for accomplishing this, but rather many. It all starts with a single step, as all great voyages do. Most people who have reached a high level of success don’t find it overnight. They kept working for it through all their failure and disappointment. They had faith that, if they put in the work, there would be a light at the end of the tunnel. Greatness is a journey that is built one step at a time.

On this journey you will absolutely be pelted with thoughts of doubt and might even want to quit some days. The key is to push through these. Sure, doubt can help you avoid failure, but failure is still one step closer to greatness. Failure and success are not endpoints, but rather new beginnings. They are the start of a new journey, teaching you how to adapt to situations by pushing through and making it work any way you can. In failure you can achieve success and in success you can find failure. So never settle, never quit.

The Enemy Within

A product of evolution, the human species is left to experience moments of extreme happiness and extreme lows. We seek to fill our desires in a way that creates a sense of happiness. This happiness, however, always seems so fleeting. We poison our bodies with liquor and seek carnal pleasures. Constantly searching for a way to avoid being alone with our own thoughts. These types of methods are never permanent, as we see the happiness eventually start to slip away. Evolution has taught us to constantly crave these things for a brief reprieve from our suffering. Suffer is human nature, after all. But what if there is another way? Wouldn’t anyone choose exist in a happy state?

The unconscious mind can be our biggest enemy. We wage internal wars, beyond our control. It’s where our doubts start creating problems that are not necessarily there. This type of thinking tends to creep in when our minds are idle, when our thoughts are allowed to run free. Seemingly coming from nowhere, to torture you with thoughts that you wouldn’t normally fret over. It can wreak havoc on you while you are lying in bed trying to sleep. Creating unreasonable doubt and issues, where you never saw any prior.

Leaving your mind idle, without distraction can be a dangerous thing for many of us. Without distractions we are overwhelmed with our own consciousness. It plays tricks on us and can be responsible for our unhappiness. Problems are created in the moments we spend alone that can leave us miserable. It’s almost as if our own mind is against us as it aids in creating this unhappiness inside of us.

Allowing your mind to poison you with these types of thoughts isn’t the only way to live. Finding a way to control your thoughts, erasing the negative ones with more positive thoughts can have a drastic change on your life. While it isn’t an easy path, it is one that can teach you that happiness is not always something you pursue, but rather a state of being.

One of the ways to do this is with mindfulness. Utilizing meditation, you learn how to stop these thoughts from surfacing. You experience life in the moment. Focusing on your breathing, you learn how to push away these thoughts that seem to just pop up. While this isn’t always easy at the beginning, with time you find yourself able to control your thoughts. You don’t allow these doubts to find a home inside you and rather replace them with a sense of peace.

Sometimes, the greatest enemy you will ever face is the one that resides in your own mind. However, when you start to recognize this, you learn there is a way to alter this. There are a number of ways to master your mind, and in turn master your ability to be happy at a moments notice.

The Concept of Now

Time is a construct of our own design to help regulate the world we have created. No longer do we live by our natural circadian rhythms, but rather by these custom made times that dictate when we are required to function. Even then, while we are walking around with our watches and our phones, able to check the time at a moment’s notice, we don’t focus on the present moment. We are constantly focusing on the past and the future, holding on to things we did wrong while working towards building a better life. However, many of us get so caught up in these thoughts we end up repeating the same day over and over. We hope to make tomorrow better, forgetting that in this moment we hold all the power. Rather, we allow it to continuously slip through our hands because our focus is elsewhere.

Being in the moment isn’t always ideal. The future holds hope for a better tomorrow. Maybe you aren’t where you wish you were at this exact moment and you spend your time dreaming of a day you will be. You are waiting for that perfect job or maybe the perfect person to fit beside you. With these thoughts the present moment doesn’t really hold much value to you. When you devalue the now you risk forgetting the work you need to put in to reach these future goals. While you shouldn’t give up dreaming about your future, it is best to learn how to remember that what you do today is going to add up to what your future holds. Sit around waiting for the future to grant you all the things you dream of and you’ll find yourself constantly craving an imaginary tomorrow and missing out on the now.

Hold on to the past can also prevent you from living in the present. It can cripple you with regrets you may have. Maybe there was something you wish you had done differently or had gone differently. That shouldn’t hold you back from the now, though. Use the past to help you learn and grow. Don’t be afraid of taking those chances and making changes. The past is set in stone; do not live in a place where you have no control. The present allows you all the control you need to shape your life.

The past can never be changed, but the future can when you value the present. Use this moment to grow into the person you envision in the future. Work towards these dreams and you might find them come to fruition. In the past you find wisdom; in the future you find hope.

Meditate Your Way to a Healthier Lifestyle

Why you should start meditating

Let’s face it, life can be incredibly stressful and in today’s society we seem to never have time to complete everything we set out to do. We’ve all experienced stressful situations, which can alter our moods. We lash out on the people we love, without thinking, but you don’t have to keep living like this.

What if there was a way to reduce your stress and live a healthier life? I’m here to tell you there is and it’s something that has been around for centuries. It’s called meditation. I know what you are thinking right now “I don’t have time in my day to sit around and do nothing.” We all make time for things that are important in our life and your health should take precedence. Here are some scientifically proven reasons you are going to want to find time to start mediating.

What is meditation?

Meditation focuses on awareness. It is a state of consciousness, where the mind is free of the thought process. It is a technique that takes years to master, but don’t let that scare you away. The first image you might think of when mediation comes to mind is the classic meditation pose of sitting on the ground with your legs folded, and hands resting on your knees. But there are many ways to meditate; you just have to find the right way for you.

Reduce Stress

Stress can have a serious impact on your health if not managed properly. Meditation helps you learn to override part of your brain that is responsible for the fear mechanism. This is where the stress hormone, cortisol is released. Cortisol is responsible for a number of different health issues. Altering the way you react to stressful situation helps reduce the release of this hormone.

Help relieve depression

Research has found that just 30 minutes of meditation has the power to improve the symptoms of depression. Long term practice of meditation has the potential to prevent it all together. This is because those who meditate have more control over their brain processes, cutting out negative thoughts before they can take root.

Ditch that temper

It was found that those who utilize meditation tend to be nicer. One study found that participants tend to be more empathetic, laugh more, are more social, and more focused on the team rather than themselves.

Live a healthier life

While reducing stress helps keeps you healthy, there are number of other benefits to your health meditation can provide. This includes:

·         Reduces anxiety

·         Improves focus

·         Higher pain tolerance

·         Helps manage ADHD

·         Improves memory

·         Reduces the risk of heart disease

·         Reduces blood pressure

The greatest enemy you will ever face is the one inside your own head. We are constantly overthinking and getting lost in our subconscious mind. This is where most of our problems are created, problems that aren’t necessarily there. We get lost in thought and forget to live in the moment. This creates stress that can build up over the years and negatively impact our health. Everyone wants to think they control the world around them, but the truth is we only have control over our own actions and reactions. Meditation teaches you how to live simply in the moment.